NJ Couples Get Married ... Well sort of ...

Couples were finally able to legally commit to each other in NJ this week. In the wee hours of the morning on Monday, February 19, 2007, couples across the state applied for civil union licenses. Some mayors opened their doors at midnight Sunday night / Monday morning to receive the applications.

Like all applications for marriage in the state, those applying for civil unions had to wait the mandatory 72 hours before tying the knot. Couples who were previously married in another state were automatically recognized in NJ and, if they choose to have a ceremony in NJ, would not have to wait the mandatory 72 hours.

At 12:01a.m. on Thursday, February 22, 2007, in Lambertville, NJ, Beth Asaro and Joanne Schailey were joined in civil union by Mayor David DelVecchio. Other ceremonies were performed in Asbury Park and South Orange.

Not all residents, however, will be able to have a ceremony in their home town. Some mayors are refusing to perform the ceremonies. DelVecchio, however, welcomes them. He has received applications from at least 25 couples from municipalities outside of Lambertville. Applications for licenses have also been received in Bernards, Clinton Town, Clinton Township, Collingswood, Hillsborough, Raritan Borough, Readington and South Plainfield.

Other states have similar laws legalizing same-sex unions. Like New Jersey, Connecticut and Vermont have civil unions, California has legalized domestic partnership, and only one state, Massachusetts, gives same-sex couples the right to marry.

While civil unions give same-sex couples many of the same rights as heterosexual couples, it still doesn't give couples all of the same rights. Among the many rights now conferred to same-sex couples, civil union provides couples the right to adopt, child custody rights, visitation of a partner who is hospitalized, the ability to make medical decisions and the same access to health insurance coverage employers offer spouses of employees. Partners who have been joined in civil union now also have the right not to testify against their partner in court. But because the federal government and most states do not recognize same-sex unions, partners are not able to receive Social Security benefits.

New Jersey will allow non-residents to apply for civil union licenses. However, if couples return to their home state where the unions are not recognized, they will not receive the benefits of the union.