Coming out has never really been an issue for me. Sure there have been times I have hesitated, then wondered if and how it would affect the relationship with the person I just told. For many people, there is always the choice of when to come out, and to whom. I am learning pregnancy adds a whole new dimension to coming out. Whether I want to share my news or not, people will soon notice my pregnancy and start asking questions. What will I say, and how will they react?
Soon the women in my pilates and yoga classes at the YMCA are going to take note and most likely ask me why I have not yet shared my good news. Will they still put my mat out for me before I arrive for class? Will they still refer their children to my clutter and organization workshops?
Soon our 75 and 85 yr. old neighbors are going to wonder about my protruding belly and ask "how did THAT happen?" Will they still call every chance they get to see what our dogs are doing.....to thank us for taking out their trash.....to ask when we are going to bring they pups over again for a visit?
Soon my clients will notice. They may already know I am a lesbian, they may not. What will they ask and how much will I share? Will they join me in my excitement? Or will I lose a client to homophobia?
For anyone in my life who has wondered, but with whom I have never actually "come out," my pregnancy could either strengthen our relationships ~or~ be what breaks it apart. Their choice.
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My partner had a similar experience recently. We attended a function where we ran into a number of people she hadn'st seen since college. Every introductoin was a coming out experience. It wasn't something she really anticipated and hadn't prepared herself (or me) for. We'll probably never know who was accepting and who wasn't. But I guess that's okay. Accept us or not. Their choice.
Thanks for posting this.
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